generational divide

there’s no point even being angry at your mom, it’s unlikely her way of thinking will ever change. Same goes for each of our parents, same goes for us as well tbh

people mostly are who they are. if someone hurts you in a very deep way for a long span of time and they don’t understand why its caused you grief, it’s unlikely they’re ever gonna come around and have the “lightbulb moment” when they realize how their words and actions have affected you over decades. it’s just never gonna happen

but she’s your mom and you’re the queen of your own castle even though you don’t feel like it at all. she’ll forever be the way she currently is, there’s no capacity to change. it comes down to what you want for the time you both have left

for me, I’ve made peace with accepting my parents unconditionally for who and how they are. One of my core purposes in my life is to be good to them, coexist with them, be connected to them, and do right by them in whatever ways I can manage to. They won’t be around forever, but since fate wrote that I’m their son, i choose to respect that